What A Feeling

The author Mark Cooper said, “Life has no remote.  Get up and change it yourself.” My closest friends are well aware of my admittedly self-absorbed fantasy that my life is actually a TV show.  I’ve always thought that my existence is so interesting and adventure-filled (and it is) that there are hidden cameras everywhere ready […]

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A couple of weeks ago, we were shooting Episodes 1 and 2 of Team Magazine’s landmark online series about the lives of young gay men in Manila, Hanging Out. After over ten hours of shooting, I found myself playing a game of Random Questions with some of the talented young adults we were working with. […]

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On the eve of my 36th birthday, I cannot help but think, “Everything’s coming up Vicky!”  Without sounding like such a sore winner, I am living a truly #blessed life.  Allow me to elaborate: I have a family (nuclear and extended) who have transformed their attitude towards me (and my homosexuality) from tolerance to acceptance […]

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My father died ten years ago today. Early 2006, he complained about having severe back pains probably caused by the coughing bouts he has been having on and off months prior. Being part of the generation that hated seeing doctors, he, of course, self-diagnosed and ruled it as just muscle pains. Come Holy Week, he […]

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All Out

This piece originally appeared in the bestselling fourth issue of TEAM MAGAZINE, a magazine for gay, Filipino men. For digital copies, download here. Follow us on social media here, here and here. Mrs. Dalloway said she would buy the flowers herself. Virginia Woolf’s seminal novel Mrs. Dalloway is about Clarissa Dalloway, a fictional upper crust English […]

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